Hi there! I'm guessing you're here because you've worked hard to get to where you are in your career or business and you've always earned well, but perhaps you're feeling unfulfilled and frustrated that you don't seem to have enough time or money for yourself. I am also guessing that sharing the benefits of your success with others appeals to your altruistic nature and your desire to make a difference to the lives of others and that you love nothing more than seeing others happy!
Everyone loves giving and we are wired as humans to give as it creates connection and drives community, but at what point does giving become over-giving? Giving is a great feeling and it can make you feel validated, worthy and you're useful to others when you give, so it makes you feel better about yourself. Giving can also be addictive because the high of doing something nice for others makes you feel amazing, but the comedown happens when you start to feel resentful, unappreciated and hurt, because you realise that your generosity is not being reciprocated or your health and stress levels are being affected because you're not giving enough to yourself. When you always over-give, it can also compound worries or fears that you don't really matter and that your needs are not important.
Giving well implies that you feel comfortable meeting your own needs and allowing others to meet your needs and then you have the energy, time and money to give to others. Over-giving often comes from being unable to receive for yourself - such as self-care, love, help from others, time to do what you love, joy and financial freedom.
As a "money therapist" Hypnotherapist, Mindset Mentor and Coach, I work with highly-driven women who are so focused on giving that they forget to receive.
To others, you appear to have it all, but on a deeper level, your success doesn't always feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside and you are uncomfortable receiving in life. You tend to say yes when you don't always mean it, you may have unconscious beliefs that you don't deserve your money and success or you are not important enough to feel supported and taken care of by yourself and others.
What you long for is to:
If you are an over-giver, perhaps you don't know why you over-give your time, energy or money. It just kind of happens on autopilot, right? That's because it is mostly on autopilot!
In order to feel good about receiving and feel comfortable having boundaries, you probably need some support because right now your subconscious mind is running 95-99% of your life without you even realising it! Your subconscious mind is a bit like the back-operating system of a computer. Your subconscious is mainly programmed in your childhood with your beliefs, feelings and habits that become the blueprint for how you live your adult life and, just like you would upgrade your tech if it wasn't working properly, your subconscious can be 'upgraded'. If your phone was not performing as you needed it to, you would go to your provider for an upgrade without hesitating!
Upgrading the pre-set subconscious programmes that are running your life helps you feel as good on the inside as your success looks from the outside, have a blissful relationship with yourself, with others and even with money!
If you want to know and feel that you matter, if you want to have more balance and meet your needs more often, set healthy boundaries in all areas of your life and feel more self-love and deserving of time, money and success, you can do this in a fast, easy way by rewiring the parts of your subconscious mind that are driving your over-giving habits and creating your feelings of shame, frustration or guilt and I am excited to show you how!
If any of this resonates with you, please take a look at the services I offer. I can't wait to help you receive more from life!
My mission is to guide highly driven women to feel worthy of receiving more self-love, more support from others, more time and money without feeling guilty.
I help women give themselves permission to shine and live life on their own terms without the layers of childhood and cultural conditioning that have created their beliefs about what they deserve, their habits of over-giving, rescuing others financially and feelings of shame or guilt around having & enjoying their money & success.
I believe that if women feel worthy of receiving in all areas of their lives first, then they will be able to give well to others without always jeopardising their own needs.
With 15 years of combined experience as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Mindset Mentor, Teacher, Advanced Transformational Therapist and Financial Coach, I am compassionate, empathetic and sensitive to your story or what has made you the person you are today (or who you believe you are).
I know what it's like to be an over-giver. I felt I could never be enough, do enough or give enough to be 'acceptable' to others and it was exhausting and made me feel resentful because the more I gave, the less I got back! Through training in mindset work, I learned how to quickly upgrade my subconscious programming to feel good about receiving and that means being able to ask for help, accept help and receive more love and positive experiences with others. I worked on my money mindset in order to feel comfortable receiving it without feeling guilty and I healed the parts of me that needed to know it was okay to protect my boundaries and say no with integrity.
In 2017, I trained in a cutting edge RTT (Rapid Transformation Therapy) which uses mindset training and neuroscience-based tools in order to provide the fastest possible results which I used for myself and now use for my clients. With its real formula for success, I use my 'detective-like skills' to listen in to the issues that are affecting you so we can find out why it's happening (getting to the root cause), then we pluck out the beliefs at the root and you get to choose new ones to believe! I use powerful bespoke, neuroscience-based audios to 'wire in' the new beliefs via neuroplasticity to make them stick. I have trained with the best teachers in mindset, subconscious programming, hypnotherapy and rapid transformation therapy, because many of us are busy with families and careers and we don't want to (and don't need to) spend years trying to get results. I take my professional and personal development seriously and I continue to train in the latest therapeutic techniques.
My gift is helping others to discover where their mind is sabotaging their success and happiness so they can feel and act in a more empowering and self-leading way. One of my skills is being able to quickly build a rapport with my clients by reassuring them that there is no judgement of their situation, their feelings or their beliefs and that all sessions are confidential. So here I am, ready and excited to help those of you who are eager to learn and implement the secrets to fast, inner transformation that will change your emotional and financial well-being, bring you more joy and satisfaction with your life and have a ripple effect on the lives of others.
I am available to do speaking events at summits, podcast guesting and I can facilitate workshops and retreats for your clients or employees. For corporate workshops, please click HERE. Topics include confidence for returners to work, productivity, boundaries, over-giving, people pleasing, self-worth, undercharging and money mindset.
Please email me firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
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